Prostate cancer treatment ‘could help more patients’ – BBC News

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Image caption Hormone therapy stops more testosterone from reaching the prostate gland

One of the largest clinical trials for prostate cancer has given “powerful results”, say UK researchers.

A drug for treating prostate cancer that has spread was found to save lives when offered earlier, a study found.

The trial looked at abiraterone as an additional treatment in patients with prostate cancer who were about to start long-term hormone therapy.

Abiraterone improved survival, according to results published in the New England Journal of Medicine.

Prof Nicholas James, from the University of Birmingham, who led the research, said: “These are the most powerful results I’ve seen from a prostate cancer trial – it’s a once-in-a-career feeling.

“This is one of the biggest reductions in death I’ve seen in any clinical trial for adult cancers.”

‘More men could benefit’

Abiraterone, also known as Zytiga, is a hormone therapy. Unlike chemotherapy which kills the cancerous cells, it stops more testosterone from reaching the prostate gland to stifle the tumour’s growth.

The trial involved almost 2,000 patients.

Half the men were treated with hormone therapy while the other half received hormone therapy and abiraterone.

Of the 1,917 men in the trial, there were 184 deaths in the combination group compared with 262 in those given hormone therapy alone.

Prof James added: “Abiraterone is already used to treat some men whose disease has spread but our results show many more could benefit.”

Each year around 46,500 men are diagnosed with prostate cancer in the UK, and around 11,000 men die from the disease.

The results of the trial were presented at the 2017 ASCO Annual Meeting in Chicago and published in the New England Journal of Medicine on Saturday.

‘Clear benefits’

Sir Harpal Kumar, Cancer Research UK’s chief executive, said: “These results could transform the treatment of prostate cancer. Abiraterone can clearly help many more prostate cancer patients than was first thought.”

The Institute of Cancer Research also “strongly welcomed” the new findings.

Prof Johann de Bono said they showed that when used at the start of treatment, abiraterone had “clear benefits for patients”.

In March, patients with prostate cancer in England were told they could have early access to abiraterone.

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) previously said the treatment was not cost-effective for the NHS until cancers were more advanced.

Prof Paul Workman, chief executive of the Institute of Cancer Research, said he was keen to now see abiraterone reassessed by NICE for use in patients “as early as possible”.

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Get Buzzed!: 20 Little-Known Facts About Vibrators


Research has shown that women who use vibrators are more likely to visit the gynecologist for checkups, to achieve orgasm with or without a vibrator, and to have lower stress levels and fewer headaches than women who don’t use them. What’s not to like? (source)


One study revealed that a whoppin’ 83.8% of female vibrator users preferred to employ the device for clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal insertion. But hey, you can put it anywhere you like! (source)


One billion dollars’ worth of vibrators are sold every year, accounting for a bigger market even than condoms. (source)


No two vaginas (or anuses) are alike, which is why sex-toy technicians have bequeathed us with a wide, wonderful, throbbing world of vibrators from which to choose. Some types, such as the monstrously sized and monstrously popular Hitachi Magic Wand, are sold as “back massagers” and are intended strictly for clitoral stimulation. Others are shaped like penises and are made for vaginal insertion. Some are waterproof, enabling you to rub one out in the shower or hot tub. The “rabbit” (more on that later) is two-pronged, with the larger prong for vaginal insertion and the smaller one for clitoral stimulation. Some are shaped to stimulate the G-spot or prostate gland. There are even “smart” vibrators than can be programmed over the Internet to include different vibration patterns and music to your self-pleasuring sessions. (source)


As legend has it, Cleopatra, the Queen of Egypt whose seductive powers culminated in the Roman Civil War, invented the hand-held vibrator by filling a hollowed gourd with angry bees and then pressing it against her nether regions. Hail to the Queen Bee! (source)


Back in the Sexual Dark Ages before men realized that women have orgasms, females’ pent-up sexual frustration was diagnosed as a medical condition called “hysteria.” The cure? Originally, it was a visit to the doctor’s office, where a woman would receive a “pelvic massage”i.e., a handjobuntil she had a “hysterical paroxysm,” which is now called an orgasm. For eons, physicians used their own hands. But amid the industrial hubbub of the 1800s, inventors coughed up a dizzying area of giant steampunk contraptions designed to cure “hysteria”some of them required two people to operate them, and a few were even steam-powered. (source)


The first “modern” vibrator was a little hand-powered box invented in France and called . You cranked it up like a music box, but instead of playing “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star,” it gave you an orgasm. (source)


In 1883, British doctor J. Mortimer Granville patented a forty-pound electromechanical monster that was the first modern “hysteria” cure powered by electricity. He quickly became the most popular doctor in Englandamong women, at least. (source)


These “hysteria” cures became so popular that in 1902, Hamilton Beach patented the first handheld, electro-powered personal vibrator for home use. Vibrators were only the fifth electrical device in history to receive a patentafter the toaster, sewing machine, fan, and tea kettle. American women were using vibrators at home before they were using vacuum cleaners. (source)


By the 1920s, it began slowly dawning on American men that their wives were using electrical vibrators at home for sexual gratification. how slow they were back then! This led to an outright ban on vibrators that lasted all the way until the late 1960s. The prohibition on alcohol, which started around the same time as the prohibition on vibrators, only lasted 11 years. But vibrators were banned for at least 40 years. Get your priorities straight, Americans! (source)


Amid the social tumult of the 1960s came the Sexual Revolution. One of the primary tools of this revolution, along with birth-control pills, was the cordless personal vibrator. In 1968, a patent was issued for a “Cordless Electric Vibrator for Use on the Human Body,” and the buzzing has never stopped. (source)


You may think of New Zealand as Australia’s homely little sister, but the Pacific island nation has the world’s highest rate of vibrator ownership38% of Kiwis own a vibrator. (source)


Contrary to stereotypes that women use vibrators because they can’t snag a living penis, one study showed that four out of every five female vibrator users was in a relationship. (source)


Despite the popular notion that men experience severe castration anxiety and fear of mechanical cuckoldry whenever they see a vibrator, one study showed that seven out of ten men were absolutely A-OK with their lady friends using vibrators. (source)


In 2014, a Kansas woman was rushed to the hospital because a tiny, pinkie-sized vibrator got caught in her urethra and managed to vibrate itself all the way up to her bladder. In 2013, a man live-tweeted his hospital visit for getting a vibrating dildo stuck up his rectum. (source1) (source2)


Alabama’s Anti-Obscenity Enforcement Act bans the sale of any device designed or marketed as useful for the stimulation of human genital organs. If you want to get a vibrator in Alabama, you’ll need a doctor’s note. (source)


Religious belief is negatively correlated with vibrator ownership, but you probably already suspected that. (source)


The two-pronged “rabbit” vibrator, made famous in an episode of , contains a phallic prong and a smaller prong that directly stimulates the clitoris. It was initially designed in Japan to look like a rabbit because of a Japanese law forbidding the sale of items that look like penises. According to some, it is now the world’s biggest-selling sex toy. (source)

19. THE $55,000 VIBRATOR

The world’s priciest sex toy is fashioned from white gold and is covered in 117 diamonds. The cost? A highly reasonable $55,000. (source)

20. MEET “BOB”

That’s an acronym for “Battery-Operated Boyfriend.” If you can come up with a cuter name for your vibrator, go for it! (source)

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Men Dont Realize The Sexual Dysfunction Risks Of Prostate Surgery

Reuters Health – Men with sexual dysfunction after prostate cancer surgery are often surprised to learn that the surgery had put them at risk for those problems, a new study finds.

The men in the study had come to a sexual health clinic because of problems they were having after removal of a cancerous prostate gland. Researchers who quizzed them about the sexual function information they had received preoperatively found that the men had “largely unrealistic expectations” about their sexual health after the surgery, like whether they’d be able to achieve erections.

“I think this data is some of the first to report what we see in the clinic,” said Dr. Joshua Meeks, a urologist affiliated with the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago.

Men with prostate cancer have several treatment options, which include active surveillance, radiation and removing the gland altogether. All have potential side effects, according to senior study author Dr. John P. Mullhall and colleagues at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center in New York City.

As reported in BJU International, Mulhall and colleagues surveyed 336 men with sexual dysfunction roughly three months after a prostate removal operation known as a radical prostatectomy. About two-thirds of the group had traditional open surgery; the rest had robotic-assisted surgery.

The average age was 64. Most of the men – about 88 percent of open surgery and 91 percent of robotic surgery patients – said they’d been able to have sex before surgery.

But only 38 percent knew whether they’d had nerve sparing surgery, which helps preserves sexual function. And only half of the patients realized the surgery would take away their ability to ejaculate.

Less than 10 percent knew their penis length might decrease after surgery.

Few men in either group were aware of the potential for changes in orgasms and pain or incontinence during orgasms.

The study didn’t analyze the information patients received from their doctors before the surgery, so the researchers can’t distinguish between what patients were told and what they remembered.

Still, the results show that some men may not retain information from their doctor about the risks of prostate removal, said Meeks, who was not involved with the new study.

“I think it really highlights why it’s important to have their spouse there, because I think having another set of ears is incredibly helpful,” he told Reuters Health.

Dr. Daniel Shoskes, a urologist at the Cleveland Clinic who also wasn’t involved in the study, told Reuters Health the conclusions fit with what his team has known for some time.

In fact, the Cleveland Clinic has started a half-day class for men undergoing prostate removal to educate them about the surgery and rehabilitation. The hope, said Shoskes, is that the classes will “have an impact on patient retention and satisfaction with the surgery.”

Shoskes, who also was not involved with the new research, added, “It is human and normal to forget what has been told to you. In some cases, it’s the surgeon that needs to do a better job” delivering the information.

The study’s lead author did not respond to a request for comment. In their paper, however, the study team also emphasizes the need to better prepare men for these operations. The study findings, they write, “should give us reason to think about our approach to the education of the patient prior to radical prostatectomy.”

Patients “are not remembering or appreciating the information the way that it is intended” and undertake the operation with mistaken expectations regarding their sexual health, they add.

SOURCE: BJU International, online December 21, 2015.

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Fingering The Male G-Spot: 16 Things You Need To Know About Prostate Massage


As with the female G-spotwhich was named after the pioneering sexologist Ernst Grfenbergthe male prostate gland can help produce orgasms so intense, farmers who livetwo counties over from yours will hear you screaming in pleasure.


Unlike the female G-spot, which is located inside the vagina on the upper wall near the neath the navel, nature placed a cruel joke on all men by locating the male G-spot about two or three inches inside the male rectum.


Online sources claim that the prostate gland is either walnut-sized or chestnut-sizedbut never both. And they never specify why they always compare it to nuts rather than, say, gumdrops or jawbreakers or robins eggs. I will assume that the average male prostate gland is somewhere between the size of a chestnut and walnut.


Ordinarily, the prostate serves as a valve that allows a male to either urinate or ejaculate, but never simultaneously.


But see, not only does the prostate act as sort of a railroad crossing guard between urination and ejaculation, it also aids in the production of seminal fluid. In essence, all male orgasms start with the prostate. And since it teems with nerve endingseven more nerve endings than the penisit is crucial to male sexual pleasure. Whether directly or indirectly stimulated, your prostate gland will enhance the intensity of your orgasm by 497%, which is a figure I just pulled out of my ass.


No, but its that you asked.


The male prostate gland can be indirectly stimulated by applying pressure to the perineumthat no-mans land between a mans scrotum and his asshole otherwise known as the taint. Since nerve endings on the perineum are connected to nerve endings on the prostate, applying pressure to your mans taint will send him at least three or four steps higher up the Stairway to Heaven.


Then you need to strictly adhere to the following instructions


If youlike most sane, healthy peopledont want to mix feces into your lovemaking, its best that you self-administer an enema before your prostate-massage session. Then make sure your partners hands, as well as any sex toys they use, are rendered antiseptic with rigorous cleaning. This way you can avoid and several other disgusting and puke-worthy infections. Also


Whether you get on all fours, hang over the side of the bed with your belly facing down, or on your back with your knees in the air, allow your partner easy access to your booty-hole. Its the considerate thing to do.


Unlike the human vagina, the human anus does not self-lubricate, which in general we should all probably be thankful for. So you need to find a lubricant designed for anal sex and apply it so liberally, no one will have any doubt that youre a Democrat.


Have your partner gently insert their finger inside your rectum and wriggle upward about two or three inches, curling their finger back toward their face in a come hither gesture. Allow them to poke gently around the area until you suddenly squeal like a pig with delight.


Have your lover pat on your prostate with their finger pad back and forth, not up and down. Or have them gently poke at it. But dont let them be brought, because it could be painful. Have them spend hours, if not days or weeks or years, experimenting just to get it absolutely 100% correct.


There are several male sex toys of various cost and capabilities.


No, you silly fool, but milking the prostate can release toxins that actually allow the prostate to cancer. Now quit reading and start massaging!

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Here’s Exactly Why Kanye (And Everyone Else) Should Try Ass Play

Kanye West wants you to know that he didn’t let his exes “play with his ass.” In fact, he claims “I stay away from that area all together.”

That breaks my heart — and not just because I’m a queer man and many queer men have loved putting penises, tongues, fingers and other assorted objects into our asses for thousands of years. It breaks my heart because everyone should try ass play at least once. 

Why? Well… first and foremost, because it feels good. Half of all of the nerve endings in the entire pelvic region are located in the anus and that makes it a major pleasure powerhouse. If you happen to have a prostate, there could be even more good times headed your way. Even if you don’t, anal play can still be an incredibly thrilling and satisfying part of sex or masturbation (just ask any of my cis female friends who love anal sex — and not because their partners guilt them into it).

But beyond all of the mind-melting orgasms you could be having or giving whenever you want them or want to give them, the sooner we all start putting things in or near our butts (and admit that we put things in or near our butts), the sooner we’ll help rid this planet of one of the most odious stereotypes out there: if you’re a straight man and you like having your ass played with, it must mean you’re gay.

We should all be calling bullshit on this ridiculous line of thinking for two reasons: firstly, it’s just not true. No one is gay or becomes gay because they try or like a sex act. Our sexuality is defined by who we are (or in some cases aren’t) attracted to, not what we do or how we do it. Secondly, even if it were true, what’s the problem? The fact that anal play is connected with homosexuality and therefore means that any straight man who would engage in it is somehow less masculine or less of a man for doing so illustrates exactly how our culture still feels about gay men — and by extension, about women

It’s also exactly what Amber Rose was implying in her tweet that set off this anal hysteria:

For someone who wants to be seen as a trailblazer in the fight against sex negativity and slut shaming, she’s seems to have absolutely zero comprehension of how a tweet like hers achieves exactly the opposite of what she supposedly stands for. And that’s sad.

Even sadder is the response her tweet inspired across the Internet and Kanye’s panicked reaction. I have no idea if Kanye has ever tried anal play but just imagine how radical, groundbreaking and potentially influential it would have been if his reply to all of this nonsense had been, “You’re right. I love getting my ass played with and there’s really nothing to be ashamed about here.”

But it wasn’t. Instead, it makes me think he likes ass play anyway and is just too embarrassed to admit it. But even if Kanye can’t win in this situation, we still can. I humbly suggest each of us spend a little time with our asses — or someone else’s ass — this weekend. Get to know it a little better. Show it some love. Tell it you don’t hate it. Tell yourself it doesn’t make you any less of a man or any dirtier of a woman or any more fucked up as a person if you do it. And then enjoy some of the best orgasms of your life and tweet at Kanye and Amber Rose about it. 

For more about anal play, check out the HuffPost Love+Sex Podcast on all things anal here.

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U-turn over prostate cancer drug – BBC News

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Patients with prostate cancer in England will now have early access to a drug that can delay the need for chemotherapy.

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence now agrees that abiraterone is affordable.

It had previously said the treatment was not cost-effective for the NHS until cancers were more advanced.

The drug costs 3,000 a month, but a lower price has been agreed with the manufacturer Janssen.

Abiraterone, also known as Zytiga, is a hormone therapy, and unlike chemotherapy which kills the cancerous cells, it stops more testosterone from reaching the prostate gland and thereby stifles the tumour.


It is already used at the end-of-life after chemotherapy as it can give patients an extra few months.

But NICE had previously said it could not justify giving the drug to patients with earlier stage disease, even though such patients in Scotland did have access to it.

Instead, patients in England had to rely on their doctors applying to the Cancer Drugs Fund, a special pot set aside for cancer drugs not routinely available on the NHS.

Now NICE says new evidence submitted by Janssen means it can offer the drug to more patients – those with spreading prostate cancer who have only mild symptoms and who have not responded to androgen deprivation therapy and have not yet been offered chemotherapy.

Prof Carole Longson, from NICE, said: “There are few treatments available for patients at this stage of prostate cancer so this is very good news.”

Heather Blake, from Prostate Cancer UK, said: “This long awaited decision is fantastic news and brings an end to years of uncertainty for men and their loved ones. After 18 months our calls have finally been heard as NICE and the manufacturer have managed to negotiate a way forward. However it cannot continue to take so ludicrously long to get men what they need.

“If the newly reformed drug appraisal process really is to work better for men, manufacturers must present best value for money first time around while greater flexibility from NICE must come as standard. We need to see much more focus on what patients need and deserve, otherwise men will men will lose out as they continue to be caught in the middle.”

The NHS in Wales is expected to provide funding and resources for abiraterone within three months of the English guidance being published.

The new price for the drug on the NHS in England is 2,300 for 120 tablets, which is 30 days’ supply.

Under the agreed discount, the NHS pays for the first 10 months of treatment with abiraterone. For people who remain on treatment for more than 10 months, Janssen will rebate the drug cost of abiraterone from the 11th month until the end of treatment.

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Prostate awareness ‘dangerously low’ in British men – BBC News

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British men are dangerously ignorant of the prostate gland, according to a men’s health charity.

It is crucial for sex as it helps produce semen and is involved in ejaculation.

But it is also the leading cause of cancer in men, with 40,000 diagnosed each year, Prostate Cancer UK says.

A survey by the charity showed nearly one in five men did not even know they had a prostate and men were “blind” to the risk of cancer.

The gland, which is about the size of a walnut, sits below the bladder and in front of the rectum.

It produces the fluid that nourishes sperm.

The survey of 1,900 men found:

  • 92% were clueless about the gland’s role
  • 54% did not know where it was
  • 17% did not know they had a prostate

Prostate Cancer UK chief executive Angela Culhane, told the BBC News website: “Men are very ignorant about prostate cancer and it’s dangerous because it is actually the most common cancer in men.

“The things it does affect – ejaculation and sexual function, urine flow and incontinence – are not regularly talked about over the dinner table or in the pub.”

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Nearly 11,000 men die from prostate cancer each year.

It can have few symptoms in the early stages, and because of its location most symptoms are linked to urination:

  • needing to urinate more often, especially at night
  • needing to run to the toilet
  • difficulty in starting to urinate
  • weak urine flow or taking a long time while urinating
  • feeling your bladder has not emptied fully

Ms Culhane said: “A man in his 30s with none of the risk factors shouldn’t be overly worried – but for men at higher risk, they should have a conversation with their GP or one of our specialist nurses.

“If they have a family history, are black [black men are twice as likely to develop prostate cancer as the overall population] or are over 50, then, generally, they should be thinking about having a conversation.

“As a country, we need to wake up and stop men dying needlessly.

Ignoring prostate cancer won’t beat it – only fighting it will.”

Former England and Newcastle United footballer Les Ferdinand, who saw his grandfather suffer with the disease at the end of his life, said: “I’m not surprised so many men don’t know what their prostate does – it’s an easy gland to ignore.

“In fact, until prostate cancer affected my family, my knowledge of the prostate was pretty slim.

“Don’t ignore the statistics and don’t ignore your risk.

“Join the fight to beat the disease.”

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Hard-and-fast prostate radiotherapy ‘a win-win for NHS’ – BBC News

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The NHS could save money and patients’ time by giving fewer but stronger doses of radiotherapy treatment for prostate cancer, say experts.

The UK doctors told the Lancet Oncology there was now enough proof the hard-and-fast treatment worked just as well and did not cause more side-effects.

For a patient, the new regime would mean 17 fewer trips to hospital.

Nationally, it would free more than 150,000 visits, saving the NHS tens of millions of pounds each year.

Prostate cancer makes up more than a quarter of the workload of UK radiotherapy departments, and many cancer centres are already making savings by following the new regime

Prof David Dearnaley and his team, from the Institute of Cancer Research and the Royal Marsden Hospital, say others should do the same.


They estimate about 10,000 men a year could benefit from the new treatment regime.

The treatment is given over four weeks instead of seven and a half, and uses higher doses of radiation to zap the prostate gland and kill the cancer.

Studies in thousands of men suggest giving 20 high doses for a month is as effective as giving 37 standard doses over two months.

Prof Dearnaley said: “There are no losers with this. Everybody wins – the NHS and patients.”

The work was part-funded by the Department of Health and Cancer Research UK.

Prof Arnie Purushotham, of Cancer Research UK, said: “It is clear that this is safe and effective, so it is now up to the NHS to ensure all men who are suitable are offered this treatment immediately.”

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How To Bring Up the Possibility Of Pegging With Your Boyfriend

While pegging might be a topic that were seeing more often in mainstream media (like in the movie Deadpool, and well Elite Daily), it can still be a taboo subject.

We all know by now that butt stuff isnt just for straight women and gay men; it is for everyone who has an anus. Anal play does not discriminate between gender identities and sexual orientations. People have finally seemed to clue in to the fact that anal sex feels really damn good.

It might have something to do with the thousands of nerve endings, the prostate gland or the g-spot targeting angle you know, just maybe.

Pegging is usually described as a woman giving anal sex to a man by use of a strap-on. While we are talking about girlfriends pegging boyfriends, please dont forget that pegging ignores gender roles and can be used to describe anyone giving anyone anal sex by use of a strap-on.

As a cis woman, the idea of pegging is insanely hot. I get to explore different areas of my boyfriends body, allowing him to discover new pleasure centers. I also get to quite literally fuck him. He gets the enjoyment of watching his phallus enter inside of me, so I get to do the same. It only seems fair.

Although you might like to jump straight into pegging, there are some steps to properly bring up the topic without having your guy flat out refuse.

I would highly suggest letting your man explore your anus. The first reason is that it can feel amazing for you and I dont want you to miss out. The second reason is that youre in this together. If you understand what anal play feels like, then you are more prepared to play with someone elses anus.

It can also ease your guys mind about it not being a taboo subject. If you refuse (and you have every right to refuse), then he might be less willing to try it himself. Do not do anything you are not comfortable with make sure you communicate any concerns.

It doesnt have to be with a penis. Anal play can feel good with a finger, a butt plug, a dildo (with proper flared base) or a penis. In fact, it is a good idea to start small with a finger and work toward larger objects like sex toys.

This is a good idea for you, but also an excellent idea for your guy. If your goal is pegging, then you still need to start slow. Start with exploring his prostate with a finger.

From my experience, most guys are hesitant about this and then end up really enjoying it. The trick is to add a LOT of lube to your finger and the butt hole. (And cut your nails!) Once youve both mastered the finger, then you can consider introducing a toy.

There are butt plugs in various sizes as well assex toys for beginner pegging. Toys made specifically for pegging are often skinny, smooth and non-realistic looking (aka: they dont look like a dick). If youre introducing toys into your anal play, then consider choosing some that your man would be interested in trying.

A great idea is to shop together, or find a bunch that you think could work and have him pick out the one he likes the most. You can share toys, just make sure to properly sanitize them before switching orifices.

If youve introduced anal play with fingers and toys, but still havent done any pegging, then it is time to bring up the topic. I started to talk about pegging by reading non-fiction erotic stories and sending them over to him. You have this really steamy story written judgment-free by someone on the internet.

By sending it to him to read on his alone time, he can let his imagination go wild without feeling any pressure to react in a certain way. There are plenty of pegging recounts online, but I dont suggest bombarding his inbox. Pick out one or two really hot ones and forward them to him. Hell have some time to think before you have a conversation about it.

Keep your conversation 100 percent positive and judgment-free.

I talked about how sexy I thought it would be to experience being inside of him. I also talked about how I think it would pleasure him and his beautiful prostate. We ended our first conversation with not ready but working on it. I call that a success!

When you are getting closer to trying it, there are three essential components that you will need to buy: a harness, a strap-on and lubricant.

Obviously, he should be involved in choosing the strap-on because it is going inside of his body. He should be involved in shopping for the harness so he can start to feel comfortable picturing you wearing it.

There are so many different kinds of harnesses out there, and it is important for both of your comfort to discuss which one. You dont really need to shop for the lube together, just make sure that it is compatible with the toy material (silicone lube is not for silicone toys). Often a water-based anal-specific lube works (it is a bit thicker for added padding).

Just because youve bought everything, doesnt mean you can rush into pegging. You still need to fully respect his boundaries. You can always try anal play with the strap-on you chose without putting it in the harness first. Get his bum used to the toy before strapping it into the harness.

Bringing up the possibility of pegging with your boyfriend can be a quick feat or a really long, drawn-out one. It is important not to pressure him, to communicate any desires or concerns and act like a team throughout.

Youre both trying this out for the first time, so go easy on him! On your side, you can prepare by reading how-to guides. If youve only ever been on the receiving end of things, then you might need some tips and practice yourself. Keep informed so you can both have the best possible experience.

I know youre concerned about what happens if you buy all the equipment and there is still no pegging? Easy solution! Just have him suck your dick literally. I promise it is one of the hottest things youll ever do. The harness and toy will be worth it.
Any other tips to bring up pegging with a partner? Let us know!

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Penis eaten by superbug: Southend Hospital sued – BBC News

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Image caption Andrew Lane, pictured with his wife Sue, lost most of his penis after contracting an infection during an operation

A cancer patient who lost most of his penis to a flesh-eating superbug is taking legal action against the hospital where he was having treatment.

Andrew Lane, 61, contracted the infection necrotising fasciitis after an operation to have his prostate gland removed at Southend Hospital, Essex.

He claims his bowel was punctured during the procedure, leading to the infection.

The hospital said it was aware of the case but could not comment further.

‘Nine months pregnant’

Mr Lane, from Thurrock, had so much diseased tissue removed that he lost his penis and was left with a protruding stomach where the outer tissue was “eaten away”.

He had to use a catheter and colostomy bag for two years after the operation in 2013.

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Image caption Andrew Lane was left with a protruding stomach where outer tissue was eaten away by a flesh-eating bug

“It has just been a horrendous experience. I thought I was going to die,” Mr Lane said.

“That night I was taken to theatre three times while the surgeons took more and more tissue away.

“I was super-fit before all this. I had a good body, but now I look like I’m nine months pregnant. I can’t ever bear to look at myself naked.”

Read more on this story and other Essex news

Nick Greaves, from Mr Lane’s lawyers Slater and Gordon, said: “Mr Lane believed he was going into hospital for a routine operation and would be home within days.

“Instead, he has been left with permanent and life-changing injuries that have turned his world upside down.

“Although nothing can change that, he wants to know what happened and ensure it is fully investigated and everything possible done to prevent anyone else having to go through the same ordeal.”

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